living awareness

Taking care of your "stuff"


Life is always presenting us with growth opportunities and we can often find ourselves facing our own “stuff”.  Stuff is a word which takes the place of words - but you probably know exactly what I'm talking about.  I’m talking about the  “stuff” that pops up from inside – out of no-where-- and triggers an emotion.  Then the stuff just hangs around and gets into everything….kinda like a bad smell.  Geesh...when I get triggered I usually have enough awareness to get through the situation at hand without reacting from emotion - and sometimes the emotion just hangs around and makes things difficult.  

When  stuff comes up and is hanging around you will need to take some action.  Otherwise it you will be suffering "stinkin' thinkin' and not having much grace or ease in your life.  Iff there was a bad smell, you would open the window. Right?

So, when you're stuck with some stinkin' thinkin', clear the air of the stuff that's hanging around.  Try this four step process and let me know what changes for you.  This really works for me.   

Four Steps to move toward Personal Greatness

One Accept it.  Yup, it is there.  Don't judge it as bad or good, just accept it.

Two:  Own it.  Realize that its yours! – and the only way you can do something about it is to take 100% responsibility for the fact that it is there.

Three:   Reveal it to someone.  This can be tricky, because there may be some resistance from you.  Reveal the "stuff" to someone that can support you in dealing with it.   You’re will talk it out with someone, tell them how feel about the stuff, how it affects you and how it affects the people around you.  Don't do this step with someone who is part of the "story" surrounding the "stuff".  By the way, you own the stuff, so don’t blame it on anyone when you reveal it.   

Four.  Examine your relationship with the stuff.  Usually the stuff has us react in a particular way.  Notice your reaction and your relationship to the reaction .  What does being that way give to you?  What does being that way take from you?   After examining whats really happening, you can declare that you are done being that way.  Once you declare you are done something NEW can come into its place.    

There may be a bunny watching..

This morning I took a break from the "things" I told myself had to get done.  I went for a walk along the creek near our home which is low and barely moving.  While walking at first I could only hear the cars passing by on a nearby street and all I could see were houses and people raking the last of autumn's leaves from their lawn.  

Continuing my walk, I began to hear the faint trickle of the water in the creek and the song of a distant bird.  I then noticed a bunny munching on some grass. I then noticed the cold air entering at the tip of my nose and the pulsing of my own heart.  I smiled and turned around and for just a moment it seemed like the bunny was looking right at me.  Suddenly, I was present with life beyond all the things I told myself "had to get done". The rest of my walk was an up-lifting adventure.

This morning reminded me how easy it is to get caught up in the "this and that" of life.  Yes, I have responsibilities; we all have responsibilities in life and whether we notice it or not, we are also all on a path of "enlightenment".  This is happening at the SAME time and BOTH areas of life are equally important.  I know from my own experience that when I EQUALLY embrace my "day to day"  responsibilities and my personal "practice of enlightenment", my life becomes easier.  

Look at the "things" in your life that consume your time and energy each day. Examine the story you have built around the activities.  How easy is it to convince yourself that you must do "this and that"? Perhaps you say "its my job" as a mother, father, partner to do "it".  Perhaps you say "well, if I don't do it, no one will."  Is that true? or is that just a story?  Notice for yourself.  

Do not allow the responsibilities of "day to day" life DISTRACT you from the practices that lift you and transform you. When you get to the place where all you see is the work you need to do, you may fall victim to the ILLUSION that there is not enough time for your "practices of enlightenment".  I encourage you, don't live that illusion.  

Instead of living that illusion take some time and go for a walk and see what you notice.  There may be a bunny watching you.  :-)